An Answer For Holly And Britney

Well Holly, I have been very busy. So I was not able to post anything. But I have been trying to keep up with what is going on with our sweet girl Britney. This little Britney girl has practically got me writing a book.

As usual what you say makes a lot of sense. And I agree with you about Britney being smart. I think Britney is very, very smart. She also seems very street wise sharp. Sensible, and down to earth. I was impressed by that. Because I did not expect to see that with all the glitz, and glamor that is such a part of her also.

This is just one of the many, many reasons I am so very worried about all those powerful dangerous med’s she is probably being given. To me, what they are doing with all those drugs is like somebody going up to one of the great works of art like the Mona Lisa, or a Rembrandt and adding their own paint, and brush strokes to it. Can you understand the tragedy, and insanity of such an act.

If you can understand. Then you begin to understand my feelings about dealing with peoples psychological problems. Especially artist, and gifted people like Britney. Still, she does need help and support. You cant know every thing you need to know at her young age. Especially when you are as famous and financially able as she is. That attracts a lot of bad stuff to you.

I was so worried for her when she left the hospital. But I thought it was so cute the way she commandeered one of the pap boys to assist her. She knew she needed assistance because of all the drugs they had given her. And all the things she had just been through. See what I mean about how sensible, and responsible she is when it’s important. She knew she might not be safe to the public driving after all she had been through.

It was so precious the way she grabbed him by the wrist and dragged him along with her through all the cameras, and chaos surrounding her at that hotel so he could be there to assist her. Of course she needed more help and support than that boy she commandeered could give her. But she was all alone. And very vulnerable. So I think she did the best she could, and did real good at finding ways to take care of her-self  while alone. Poor baby. I wanted to be there for her so bad. I am truly hoping that her daddy really is their for her now.

And you are right. It does look like those drugs are making her gain weight. That is one of the many, many bad side effects of a lot of psych med’s. This is an especially serious side effect for a young female and her body image. It also creates a problem with working in the entertainment industry where body image is so important. As a result of this, the med’s create new severe psychological, and emotional illness and problems. Usually depression, and other anxiety, and body image illness.

Further, these med’s cause many people to develop diabetes early. Which is mostly an illness of OLD AGE. And is a very, very serious physical illness. Especially when it happens at a young age. It really tears the body up. And you have to manage it very carefully, and closely for the rest of your life. Do you see what a huge, and tragic mess you make out of treating emotional, and mental problems with heavy daily drug treatments. In almost all cases it’s really medically, and scientifically unsound. And just plain stupid.

You can see what a mess lawyers can make out of simple problems. But that is nothing compared to the mess doctors can make out of simple problems. They can not only cost you all your money. They can also cost you your health, and life.

From mediaeval times through the renaissance researchers noted a unusual phenomenon among the wealthy nobility of Europe. They tended to died much sooner than the peasants out in the country. Because the wealthy nobility could afford doctors to treat them when they got sick. Which usually killed them much sooner than they would have died if they just did nothing. They did things like treating women suffering from shock from blood loss from child birth by bleeding them to let out the evil humors. I know it sounds ridiculous today. But that’s what they did.

They do a similar thing today by treating pregnant women with high risk major surgery with no medical justification to deliver babies for convenience, and profit. I know it sounds ridiculous. But as you know. That’s what they are doing by the millions today. And the poor patients actually think the doctor is helping them. It’s insane!

Much of what tears me up so much about Britney and what she is going through now is that I think Britney understood all along what these psych med’s do to you. How they take your mind. I think she learned that back when they foolishly put her on them for the baby blues. Think about the title of her CD “blackout”. She saw it coming. Gifted people are like that. The way she seemed to push so hard to get in as much fun and living free as she could before she surrendered her self to the blackout. Just so she could have her boys, and her boys could have her. As I said. I think underneath little smiling, happy, playful Britney is some very, very deep water. She is an artist.

And now she is having the blackout ball. Do you get it! I think I do. I can feel her so strongly sometimes. Can you understand how deep thing sometimes run in artist. And why you have to be very careful about assuming things with them. And they are the worst type of people to put on psych med’s because their emotions tend to sometimes be so intense. The last thing they need is to be on psych med’s that take away their self control over their emotions. That is a potentially very dangerous thing to do with them. They can, and often do hurt them-self when the psych med’s weaken them and cause them to lose control.

In almost all cases daily drug treatment should be a last resort. Not a first choice as it is in our greed driven American medical delivery system. And even when drug treatment is needed to relive SUFFERING (cause if it ant broke don’t fix it!) it should usually only be for a few months ( six mouths to a year) to give a person some temporary relief from their suffering. While you try to fix, or improve their life style problems, and the psycho social problems that are making them sick in the first place.

Once you do that. And once they have a good support system in-place. You should try to slowly wean them off of the med’s to see if they can function comfortably without them. And the sooner you can do this the better. They can always go back on the med’s if they need to. And they will probably need less med’s. Less med’s means less likely hood of bad side effects. It may take many years for some people. But eventually most people can get back to living a happy contented life without dependance on daily use of psych med’s. Or need of any other med’s other than what most people occasionally use to help get rest, or sleep.

You have to remember that psych med’s don’t cure anything. They just cover it up temporarily. And can provide a little temporary chemical relief, and support until you fix things. Or get more healed. Much like putting a cast on a broken leg, or arm. But once the limb is healed enough. The cast needs to come off. And you need to learn how to walk again without crutches. So you can once again bear the full weight of your body on your healed limb.

If you keep the cast on past the time you really need it. Or keep walking with a crutch when you don’t really need it anymore. Your leg muscles will begin to weaken, and waste away. The brain is the same way. Except that the human brain is the most adaptable brain on the planet. And given enough time, and practice can adapt to almost anything. It’s really quite amazing.

But of course the doctor, and drug companies don’t make as much money by doing what is best for the patient. Do they. Conservative, careful, restrained medical care, and time is usually your best medical care. Most doctors like to use a sledge hammer these days when all that is really needed is a experienced well trained mind, and hands. But they get payed more for using sledge hammers.

They also say that Britney likes to keep a tidy, orderly environment. That is good because it usually indicates a tidy, orderly mind. In fact one of the things you can do to help a person improve their focus, and be more organized mentally is to help them learn to maintain a healthy tidy, orderly, clutter free environment. Often one of the first things you will see when some one is having emotional, or mental problems is a very untidy environment. But not always. Some gifted people are very untidy sometimes because they just don’t want to take any time, or thought away from what they are doing, and thinking about. Example: Albert Eienstein.

Britney has a very mature sensible side. So non drug pushing counseling might be helpful as I indicated before. The problem with most all of the US counseling, and drug treatment programs is that they are usually just proxies for dope dealing, drug pushing doctors, and the pharmaceutical industry. Even once venerable organizations like AA have become nothing more than proxies, and hunting grounds for dope pushing doctors.

Instead of helping people learn to live a sober drug free life, these doctors just substitute their costly, dangerous, intoxicating drug poisons for the alcohol and street drug poisons the AA member was abusing. I will grant you that medically managed drug impairment may be safer than alcohol, and street drug abuse. But neither is good. And neither is what AA is supposed to be about.

And you have to remember that more people die from prescription drug accidents than from any other type of drug or alcohol use.

I also agree with you that I think some of what Britney was doing was just being young, and trying to have a little fun like other young people do. It’s just that most people don’t have teams of pap’s follow them everywhere they go. She wasn’t hurting anybody. In fact they were making millions off of her.

And I don’t see any problem with her nudity with her small children either. Or putting them in the bath, or bed with her. That’s just all normal stuff. And the skin contact with them is good. In most countries they would still be nursing. As to K-fed lawyers trying to use this. K-fed, Britney, and their children have all been severely screwed by their own lawyers, and by each others lawyers. The amount of money, and grief they have been manipulated into wasting on fighting each other is a disgrace.

But how could a couple of kids like K-fed, and Britney know any better. Like I said,  fame, and money can attract a lot of bad stuff to you along with the good stuff. You have to really know who your friends are. And who you can really trust in a pinch. Just think what they could have done for those boys as a family with the million dollars they wasted on attorneys encouraging them to fight each other. It’s always a bad thing when you are paying the other sides attorneys fees. It just encourages them to let their attorney run amuck. They tend to see the light quicker when they are paying for things out of their own pocket.

Oh well. You live and learn. And it is absolutely insane for anyone with money to get married these days without a pre-nup. Without one you are just increasing the likely hood of a divorce. At the first sign of trouble lawyers and so-called friends will be all over you to get divorced so they can get at as much money as possible. It’s sad. A good pre-nup is really a way of protecting your spouse, and your marriage as well as your-self and those who depend on you. If you have a lot of money and you really love them, you will see to it that they sign a good pre-nup.

I guess I have slammed a lot of people very hard about Britney. In many ways Britney represents a lot of people out there struggling with the slings and arrows of outrageous misfortune”(William Shakspere), and injustice, and unfairness in life. It’s just that for Britney everything is on a more complicated, bigger, and on a more intense scale because of who she is, poor baby.

I feel worst about slamming her parents who are probably just trying to help, and protect their child. I know I would have tried to do some of the same things they are doing if I were them. It can be very hard to help an adult child in distress. But my disdain for the abuses of the American medical profession, and the pharmaceutical industry negatively colors all my feelings about how to best handle any health care problems these day’s.

It makes me angry to admit it. But in the current American health care climate it’s “Buyer beware”. And this is especially true in the areas of psychologic, and psychiatric care. Because it is much easier to abuse vulnerable desperate patients, and families.

Part of the reason for this is the fact that most people don’t have any real under standing of the difference is between the two main types of psychological problems. Now a days everyone refers to all psychological problems as mental illness. As if psychological problems, and mental illness were one and the same thing. But they are not the same thing.

In my view. There are two main types of psychological problems, and illness. One type is mental problems, and illness. And the other type is emotional problems, and illness. And though a person can have both mental illness, and emotional illness, most people diagnosed with mental illness really only suffer from emotional problems, or emotional illness. This is a very important distinction, or difference. And I will explain why.

The difference between mental, and emotional illness is easier to understand if I compare it to something else that you know. For example, a headache is like having a psychological illness, or problem. But a headache can have many different causes. Mental illness is like having a bad headache because you have a brain tumor pressing on something in your brain. Emotional illness is like having a bad headache because you are very worried about something, or under a lot of emotional stresses.

You see, both people may have a very bad headache. But the cause can be very different. And of course the treatment of their headache would be very different. For a brain tumor they may need brain surgery. And because a brain tumor can be life threatening, a very dangerous, and risky procedure like brain surgery may be justified.

On the other hand. If the headache is caused by worry, and emotional stress you don’t want some doctor subjecting you to dangerous brain surgery. Or putting a hole in your head because you are under stress. But that is exactly what I feel like most American doctors are doing to people suffering from stress in the US by putting them on all types of daily medications. They are putting holes in their heads.

And as a result. More Americans are killed, and injured by prescription drugs of all kinds than any other people in the world. You see, most all medication is first, and foremost a poison. In fact if you gave any prescription medication to someone that did not really need it, and without their knowledge, or permission, you would say that they have been poisoned.

So I refer to most medications as what they mostly are, poisons. Although many of these poisons can have some good benefits, and do save lives. For example antibiotics. So when I really need a medical poison I don’t hesitate to take it, and use it. But I always treat it with the respect you should give all poisons.

So as you can see. A person with a mental illness we believe actually has something physically wrong with their brain. Like a brain tumor. BUT! a person suffering from an emotional illness does not have any thing wrong with their brain. Their brain is perfectly normal. But there is something wrong with their environment that is making them feel emotionally ill.

Maybe there is to much stress in their environment. Maybe they have old issues eating at them. Maybe they have bad nutrition, and little or no exercise, recreation, and fun. Maybe they don’t get their rest, and quiet time. Maybe they drink to much. Or misuse, or abuse  drugs or other chemicals. Maybe they have not yet learn good non drug, or minimal drug coping skills. And much more.

Usually a person suffering from emotional illness has a problem with many of these things at the same time. BUT! as you can see. The way to cure the emotional illness is by fixing the problems in their environment that is making them sick. Giving these people powerful psych med’s does not cure anything. It just temporally covers up the problems. And makes them sicker from the toxic side effects of the medications. Psych med’s are the “quick and dirty” treatment. Very dirty. And also brain surgery with a very dull, and blunt knife. Very dull.

Can you now understand how foolish doing that is. I seriously doubt there is anything wrong with Britney’s brain. Unless she has now been injured by all those powerful psych med’s she has been taking.

I have less of a problem with the temporary conservatorship than I have with all those med’s she is being given. I can justify the conservatorship as a way of relieving her of some of her stress, and protecting her estate. I have watched helpless as people took advantage of her. Like those outrageous legal fees.

I have racked my brain at times about finding a way to reach and help Britney. I wanted to be glad her father was getting involved to protect her, and support her through all she has been going through. But I knew that her father would do what most people do. Which is run to some psychiatrist who would mislead them into thinking their child had some life threatening, serious mental disorder that they could magically save their child from by severely limiting their child’s life by heavily doping their child up with toxic medications, and treatments. Hog wash!

I don’t really blame parents for getting duped. They are usually very scared, and worried about their child. And are usually willing to let you do most any thing to their child to do what they think is saving their child. And frankly, severe mental, or emotional problems can become very dangerous if not handled just right. But few are handled right today by the American health care system.

I believe Britney’s mood swings are just that. Mood swings from stress. Britney has a lot of natural healthy characteristics, and habits that I think she could be helped to used in a very therapeutic way that would be better than any drugs, and eliminate the need of any drugs except for maybe the occasional use of something to help her get her rest as I have detailed in “ways to help you get your rest Britney”, or the very occasional use of a minimal dose of one of those tranquillizer type sleeping pills I mentioned if she feels overwhelmed.

For most people like Britney. It is usually enough for them to know that they have something they can use that they can depend on to work for them if they feel they really need it. Such that they seldom if ever need it. It’s interesting that when you feel confident you can get the support you need if you really need it you feel more confidante about struggling, and fighting to learn to stand on your own against the stresses of life.

The dope dealers, and dope pushers of the world don’t want you to know this. They want you to always think you have to have them. When I began this journey many years ago to help a friend get free of antidepressants. I found that their were literally millions of you out there that felt trapped on these psychiatric poisons. Many of you had tried to get off these poisons only to be hurt, and sometimes killed by the complicated nature of weaning off of these poisons. Complicating things further is the fact that to this day. Many doctor still tell patients that these drugs have little or know withdrawal problems. That’s a lie!

Psych med’s are probably the most dangerous of all med’s to withdraw off of. And can kill you or others weeks after you stop taking them by causing a complete mental breakdown, and “blackout”. Further many of these dope pushing doctors use the same tactics as street dope dealers to keep you from getting free of them by changing your med’s. Or increasing, or lowering your med’s to fast. All of which causes severe psychological symptoms. And just like street dope dealers when they think you might really get free of them they will give you a hot shot, or overdose to take you out.

You see, the one thing they don’t want any of their other victims to know is that they maybe able to get free too. These dope pushing doctors would rather see you dead than lose the money they get from all their victims. You see, they don’t really care about you. What they care about is the money they extort from your vulnerabilities.

As to Britney’s many healthy characteristics I would help her use to get her life back on track, one is the fact that she seems to be a very sharp young woman. And as I have said she has been in the past surprisingly sensible, smart, and mature about things when she needed to. She is very athletic, good at dancing, and likes to workout. This is an extremely powerful therapeutic tool for both good physical, and psychological health. Britney is a very vivacious basically happy type of young woman. Even when she is under stress. She is attractive, and has a good body image of her-self  it seems. She is very motherly. She does not seem to really be a drug addictive type person. She may have experimented with drugs, and alcohol. Or have abused them at some time. But she does not seem to really have a need for them. And seems very content without them. She is artistically gifted. With highly developed skills that she can use, and explore as an outlet for her energy, and creativity. And more.

So what would I do besides helping her put her estate, and business back in order under good reputable safe, responsible management if needed. Plus stopping people who have been taking advantage of her. While supporting her in resolving her child custody visitation, problems. Well that is already a lot. But I would talk with her, and work with her to find ways, to get back into healthy positive things that she really enjoys, and likes doing. I would find a qualified doctor to help me slowly, and safely wean her off all the psych med’s over several weeks, or months while Britney and I worked on helping her get back into a healthy drug free life style. Focused on the positive healthy things she loves to do each day.

I have problems with the way Britney was trapped, and captured like a wild animal being shot with a tranquillizer dart. That was, and is a violation of her civil rights. Still, I probably would have done it too before I would risk letting her get seriously hurt, or injured. I would have less of a problem with it if it were not for the terrible abuse of patients by the current profit, and greed driven American Medical profession.

Sadly, you just cant trust that their recommendations and treatments are based purely on your best interest, and based on unbiased prudent rigorous science, and well documented scholarly clinical experience all focused at providing the best individual medical care for you. You cant just take that for granted anymore. You need to do your homework, and seek independent second opinions before you just accept that a course of treatment is what is best for you or your loved ones.

And if you have the financial resources I would consult with medical professionals in other countries like England, France, Germany for a second, or third opinion. And a doctor should never sell you medical care. They should only provide you medical care. There is a big difference between these two things.

But they have her now. I hope they do their best for her. That’s all you can do for any person. I am sure her parents sometimes hurt and suffer. That’s part of being a parent isn’t it. Much of the advice I posted for Britney can help her parents too. Like “ways to help get your rest Britney”.

But after they get things in order for Britney. They should aggressively move toward having her slowly, medically weaned off all those psychiatric drug poisons, and out of that psychiatric drug cult. And return all her rights, and property to Britney. And if they don’t. Hopefully Britney and her attorney will force them to do so. So she can get on with her life.

Well that’s what I think Holly. Aren’t you sorry you ask. “Ask the man for the time. And he will tell you how to make a watch”. Well, bless your heart Holly. I am the worst person in the world to ask a simple question. Aren’t I.

When I get some time I will come back and clean this post up a bit. I mostly wanted to just get it out there because I will be very busy for a while. And may not have time to post much. But I think I have covered most every thing. And that is the best I can do for her. That and wish her well, and love, and affection.